Note: I recorded this a few weeks ago, and in the first ten minutes of the episode I start by unpacking a viral moment I had in early August. If you want to jump past that and into my broader thoughts, you can start at 9:05.
Time stamps & themes discussed:
0:45 — staying grounded while sharing on the internet
1:45 — wanting to see and read more hopeful books
5:20 — being at the eye of an internet storm
7:38 — the world I want to live in
9:05 — speaking as potently as you can when trying to share your message
11:57 — motherhood as the greatest creative act
21:18 — the ‘larry ellison paradox’ (also the richest man in the world, as of yesterday!), or: why super successful people often struggle with love
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Any time you ask anyone particularly skilled what their ‘secret’ is, they will probably tell you that it is the thing have done consistently for a very long time. They may attribute all their glory, success and power to this thing. They might say it is the answer to everything they wanted, needed and desired. But it is typically not The Thing itself that is magical, but the person’s devotion to it. Their
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