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Chris Cordry, LMFT's avatar

Isabel, this is a great piece. It really resonated with my experience, not only of dating, but of other life pursuits like writing and martial arts. The amount of depth and richness you experience when you really commit to a path is so much greater than when you flit from one thing to the next.

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Lucy's avatar

This is beautifully written. There is certainly a surrender in commitment that results in a freedom to explore. Relationship commitments, however, can be tricky. People who do not first explore their own depths, often don’t know how to do so after committing to a romantic partner. Having failed to established roots, a person doesn’t know how to diverge and risks endlessly dwelling in convergence. This can be especially unhealthy if both partners lack self knowledge before committing to one another.

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