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Bibek Ghimire's avatar

I don't particularly think of myself as a people-pleaser but this essay still resonated with me from a subtly different angle: I'm fairly introverted but tend to "default" to spending time around friends (perhaps out of FOMO though that concept doesn't quite capture the feeling) even when I know I would show up better for others (a particularly resonant point you made) when I've given myself adequate quality alone time. This was a useful reminder to prioritize that boundary, thank you.

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Kasra's avatar

"Writing is about pushing through sludge for hours until you finally get to the crystal clear waterfall where all is flowing. But if you constantly jump in and out of the sludge, conveniently distracting yourself with easily justifiable distractions such as pleasing the people you love, you’ll never get to that flow state." a much-needed reminder. one of the best things about prioritizing quiet space for yourself is that you get to understand yourself better and discover what most enlivens you, which you can then bring back to the world and uplift others with. it's a great feedback loop.

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